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Me in a nutshell: I'm a loving wife and stay at home mommy to a beautiful 3 yr old. At my best I'm creative, light-hearted, sassy, honest, witty and I have a natural love for people and an amazing zest for life, did I mention that I'm probably the best person to have on a girls night out. At my worst I'm sharp tongued, brutally honest, introverted, intolerant and slightly dismissive but it's few and far between that my alter ego ever rears her ugly head.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Reflections of fabulosity

Fabulous. That's what I labeled myself when I was at the height of "the good years". I don't know what made me think that I could be married with children and still be "fabulous" but hey motherhood is on a whole new level now a days right? I couldn't have been more delusional, huh? I had no idea that I was going to be living a completely different life, that my single friends, my BFFs, were going to disappear one by one because my new life is "boring". To make matters worse, I sometimes find my married friends boring because you know... I'm still fabulous. Not anymore I guess.

I don't want to sound superficial, I really do love children but as much as I love kids, once I had a child of my own I do not want to be around a bunch of other peoples kids! No play groups, M.O.P.S. groups, none of that. Is that wrong? I kinda want an escape from what I do everyday all day. I don't want my "me time" to consist of sitting around talking about my child or anyone else's either. The sad part is, I think that's what my old friends think about hanging out with me. When it comes to other mothers I think that makes me sound cold or insensitive, I'm really not, it's just that I used to have so much of a social life and I really miss it. It's like I'm in housewife Limbo or something. Is this something that all stay at home moms go through at some point or another? It's been 3 1/2 years and now I'm REALLY feeling it. On the weekends I'm doing things that I never would have considered fun or exciting, it's still rewarding because it's with my family but it's not my idea of a social life at all. So here I am, drifting away from my "still fabulous" friends but not domesticated enough for some of my new ones. I feel like I've lost my identity...


  1. OMG I used to be fabulous, too! I would get my nails done twice a month, my hair every three months, and never wore shoes unless they had a 3 inch heel. Now I have dried out cuticles (gross), wear a ponytail and tennis shoes!

  2. Baby you are still fabulous and don't let other women slow you down or make you feel bad cause you still want to hold on to who you are at your core. God made us this way - it's nothing we can try to deny. I felt the same way too at one point and i just refuse to let anyone tell me that it can't be done...if the world thinks so, so be it. I guess we'll just start a new "trend" amongst ourselves lol Stay fabulous!

  3. Ok, nix what I said on another post about "mommy meetup groups", I didn't know. There are still ways to have fun while being in this place in your life, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I agree with Ms. Candace Sheppard.